Why Do I Love Transwomen?
Because I am a natural born woman, I have been asked on more occasions than I can count, "why" do I care about transgender issues and "why" do I have so many friends in the online trans community, since I myself am not trans? I was born female, so "why" am I here online representing and supporting transgender women? My reasons are a combination of personal, social and spiritual. I'd like to write a little more about each of these areas, then expand in future blogs based on your interests.
Personal Reasons…
On a personal level, I am bisexual femme top so none other suits me as well as a bi-gendered male-to-female (M2F) transwoman. No other type of potential love partner is more attractive to me, particularly those who are comfortable with both sides of their gender.
For a male crossdressing en femme, it is often erotic, sensual and sexual, yet it goes even deeper because dressing allows his inner feminine to emerge from the heart of a man, invoking a feeling of relief and joy as she is able to breathe through her true self. To observe, participate, facilitate this emotional healing is blissful to me, satisfying and fulfilling beyond measure.
All my romantic/sexual inclinations are for M2F trans of all degrees from crossdresser, femboi, transvestite, bi-gendered, transgendered, transsexual – all males who respectfully cross the gender line are so beautiful in my eyes. Someone who can switch between male and female, or who embodies both at one time, is the ideal match for a bisexual woman like me. This intense attraction is the magnet that keeps me transfixed, despite that I myself am not trans, the love of my life certainly will be.
Social Reasons…
On a social level, it is from a strong feminist perspective that I support transwomen. I am someone who believes that feminine is of equal value to masculine, and it is healthy and normal for females to be masculine, or males to be feminine. Because I am a feminist, I admire the ideals of femininity, so it makes perfect sense to me that many humans aspire to the feminine, no matter whether they are anatomically female or male.
Society has a deep-seated underlying disregard for the feminine, which is why women and transwomen are not treated as equals to men. The gender imbalance is a social problem which has existed for millenniums. All feminine people, genetic women and transwomen, are on the same side of the movement toward true gender equality.
As a feminist, I love and revere the feminine, so I hold in most special regard those born male who have the strength to be feminine in this harsh and cruel world. Males who possess such an inner goddess essence that they choose to cross the gender divide and become one of us, are the ultimate feminists in my book. I urge all women, all feminists, to recognize and embrace transgender women as our true sisters.
Spiritual Reasons…
From a spiritual perspective, I believe the human soul is genderless. I believe our Higher Power is genderless. It is only in physical earthly form that we are bound to vessels which are gendered. In our angelic forms, we have the knowledge, wisdom and understanding of both feminine and masculine, in perfect balance and harmony.
I believe it is evolutionary for humans to transcend societal bondage of stereotypical polarities, in particular the illusion of binary gender. As we evolve as human beings, we get closer to our angelic forms, we find a growing inner knowing of both masculinity and femininity. People who cross the human-made gender construct are only following a natural course of soul evolution.
We as human beings are not meant to be caged by the artificial duality we have created for ourselves. The time has come to transcend the illusion and ascend into our most beautiful selves.
What Do You Think?
So you see, I have a number of reasons for loving transwomen. I could write so much more if you are interested. I would like to hear from you. Along which of these lines – personal, social or spiritual - should I expand? Has anything I've said inspired you, and how? Do you have comments, questions or requests?
Personal Reasons…
On a personal level, I am bisexual femme top so none other suits me as well as a bi-gendered male-to-female (M2F) transwoman. No other type of potential love partner is more attractive to me, particularly those who are comfortable with both sides of their gender.
For a male crossdressing en femme, it is often erotic, sensual and sexual, yet it goes even deeper because dressing allows his inner feminine to emerge from the heart of a man, invoking a feeling of relief and joy as she is able to breathe through her true self. To observe, participate, facilitate this emotional healing is blissful to me, satisfying and fulfilling beyond measure.
All my romantic/sexual inclinations are for M2F trans of all degrees from crossdresser, femboi, transvestite, bi-gendered, transgendered, transsexual – all males who respectfully cross the gender line are so beautiful in my eyes. Someone who can switch between male and female, or who embodies both at one time, is the ideal match for a bisexual woman like me. This intense attraction is the magnet that keeps me transfixed, despite that I myself am not trans, the love of my life certainly will be.
Social Reasons…
On a social level, it is from a strong feminist perspective that I support transwomen. I am someone who believes that feminine is of equal value to masculine, and it is healthy and normal for females to be masculine, or males to be feminine. Because I am a feminist, I admire the ideals of femininity, so it makes perfect sense to me that many humans aspire to the feminine, no matter whether they are anatomically female or male.
Society has a deep-seated underlying disregard for the feminine, which is why women and transwomen are not treated as equals to men. The gender imbalance is a social problem which has existed for millenniums. All feminine people, genetic women and transwomen, are on the same side of the movement toward true gender equality.
As a feminist, I love and revere the feminine, so I hold in most special regard those born male who have the strength to be feminine in this harsh and cruel world. Males who possess such an inner goddess essence that they choose to cross the gender divide and become one of us, are the ultimate feminists in my book. I urge all women, all feminists, to recognize and embrace transgender women as our true sisters.
Spiritual Reasons…
From a spiritual perspective, I believe the human soul is genderless. I believe our Higher Power is genderless. It is only in physical earthly form that we are bound to vessels which are gendered. In our angelic forms, we have the knowledge, wisdom and understanding of both feminine and masculine, in perfect balance and harmony.
I believe it is evolutionary for humans to transcend societal bondage of stereotypical polarities, in particular the illusion of binary gender. As we evolve as human beings, we get closer to our angelic forms, we find a growing inner knowing of both masculinity and femininity. People who cross the human-made gender construct are only following a natural course of soul evolution.
We as human beings are not meant to be caged by the artificial duality we have created for ourselves. The time has come to transcend the illusion and ascend into our most beautiful selves.
What Do You Think?
So you see, I have a number of reasons for loving transwomen. I could write so much more if you are interested. I would like to hear from you. Along which of these lines – personal, social or spiritual - should I expand? Has anything I've said inspired you, and how? Do you have comments, questions or requests?
Comments
I realized at an early age that I was different, but didn't know what to think/do. Growing up in an all boy family, I wanted to be a girl, and play with the girls. When puberty set in, my body reacted to the hormones, but truly I wasn't particularly interested in boys or girls. As a young male full of testosterone, I sowed my oaks, but always felt something was missing.
While my wife knew Stacie and accepted her before we were married, I don't think neither one of us realized what we were getting into. Also back then, I was in the military, and this was way before the don't ask, don't ask policy we have today, so having a wife was very good camouflage for anyone who was not 100% heterosexual. Anyway, while she thought I was a simple crossdresser when we first got married, I had my doubts. I told her I might be gay, but at that time, I had never had a gay encounter so I wasn't sure. Over the years, as I evolved into who I am today, I found myself less interested in women sexually (much to my wife's dismay), yet not that interested in men either. However, having been married for 25+ years, raised a family & having grandkids; I am not ready/willing to risk everything to be what I feel I am.
When I went out as Stacie, I didn't find men as interesting as they found me. It was only when I was around other transwomen, that I felt aroused and excited. Unfortunately, most of the transwomen I've met so far seem to either be interested in men, or natural born women. So I'm not only an ethnic minority, but a sexual minority among sexual minorities - definitely not heterosexual, but not really gay, bi-sexual, or a lesbian either.
As to why I might love transwomen over natural born men or women, I want someone who could be my equal. In very simple and traditional terms, I think most natural born men would tend to assume the dominate role in a relationship and despite being trans, the male part of my psych who not accept that. At the same time, because of being trans, I have no interest in dominating a relationship, not would I want a tradition women who would subjugate herself to a male. For the most part, that only leaves other transwomen, except most of the ones I've met seem to want to be with men, or GGs. I rule out F2M transmen because I still love femininity which someone who is F2M probably has absolute no interest in. In the meantime, I live in limbo, venturing out as Stacie whenever I can, occasionally having a fling, but like Count Dracula, rushing home before the sun rises.
In my youth, the grass was always greener on the other side. In my maturity, I've developed a higher pain threshold, so I'm more inclined to stay in the frying pan. Wanting, yet not wanting a relationship with another transwomen because I'm not willing to risk my what I already have for what might be. The heat from the frying pan is less painful that the agony of losing my family. Perhaps what I need is something akin to what Denise and Brad have in one of my favorite shows - Boston Legal - transfriends with benefits.
My best to you always....Stell
With warmest regards,
April
I am a man who was married to a woman, fathered four children with her. After we divorced, I met a very beautiful transgendered woman.
When she first told me she had been born a male, I didn't believe her, she looked much too feminine, more gorgeous and feminine than most women. But it turns out it was true, and she was still pre-op.
She later became post-op, and I paid for it. We get along well, and we live these days as husband and wife. She is wonderful.
Thank you for such a wonderfully expressive site ~ you write eloquently,candidly and with passion ~ way to go. I'm a happy,sorted,sassy,bright,articulate post~op woman from Scotland.
Bless & Smiles, Kelly xx
its just a pitty australian girls are not as excepting.
well done on this site.
leece