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Signs

Not a day went by that in the last five years that I didn’t recognize and evaluate my life as a TG. My most profound insights came from getting out and intermingling with all types of people, gay, straight, trans, and tourists – they deserve a category of their own, don’t they? Gaining clarity is not solely from how people interact with us, but rather how we interact with them - in our varying degrees of presentation. Did I act or feel different with people depending on whether I presented myself as male or female? The observations aided me in learning about “who I am,” as a person in general, and as a transgender person in particular

Most of us seem to have begun the gender discovery journey down the same path. Along the way we rejoice that first day when we realize that there are others in the world just like us: we're not alone! Yet in large numbers it becomes more apparent that "they" are sometimes “not the same as me.” Like most things in life there are varieties …

Ver the past five years not a day went by

Over the past five years, not a day went by that I didn’t recognize and evaluate my life as a TG. My most profound insights came from getting out and intermingling with all types of people, gay, straight, trans, and tourists – they deserve a category of their own, don’t they? Gaining clarity is not solely from how people interact with us, but rather how we interact with them - in our varying and various degrees of presentation. Did I act or feel different with people, depending on whether I presented myself as male or female? The observations aided me in learning about “who I am,” as a person in general, and as a transgender person in particular

Most of us seem to have begun the gender discovery journey down the same path. Along the way we rejoice that first day when we realize that there are others in the world just like us: we're not alone! Yet in large numbers, it also becomes more apparent that "they" are sometimes “not the same as me.” Like most things in life, there…

Working Through Transitions

Permission to Simply Be

The elation we feel when we have learned an important lesson, achieved a goal, or had a big breakthrough can sometimes be met with a period of downtime afterward. During this period of transition, we may feel unsure and not know where to turn next. Many people, during the pause between achievements, begin to wonder what their life is about. These feelings are common and strike everyone from time to time. Human beings are active creatures-we feel best when we are working on a project or vigorously pursuing a goal. But there is nothing inherently wrong with spending a day, a week, or even a month simply existing and not having a plan. Just be. It won't be long before you embark upon your next voyage of growth and discovery.

The quiet lull into we which we fall between ideas, projects, and goals can make life seem empty. After accomplishing one objective, you may want to move immediately on to the next. However, when your next step is unclear, you may feel frust…

Visions and Ideals

"YOUR VISION IS THE PROMISE OF WHAT YOU SHALL ONE DAY BE;
YOUR IDEAL IS THE PROPHECY OF WHAT YOU SHALL AT LAST UNVEIL."
~ As A Man Thinketh, by James Allen

In the original Chicken Soup for the Soul, Jack Canfield tells the story of Monty, who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer of little means. During his senior year he was assigned a writing project to describe what he wanted to be when he grew up. His seven-page essay minutely detailed the 200-acre ranch he wanted to own. It included a diagram of the ranch and a detailed floor plan of his 4,000 square foot home.

Despite the passion and effort Monty put into his paper, he received it back with a large “F” written on it and a note to see the teacher after class. The teacher told Monty that the reason he had given him that grade was because his paper was unrealistic. He went on to cite all of the reasons why, and told Monty that if he would rewrite the paper with a more realistic goal, he would reconsider the grade. …

The Melding of Gender Polarity

"Right now, on this planet, one of the things that's going on with the earth...is a blending action that you can share in. There's beginning to be a meld of masculine and feminine.

Those attributes of your gender that you've taken for granted -- 'one gender is this way, one gender is that way...[and] they'll never get together in thought' -- is beginning to change. Each of you is here in one gender, so we ask you to begin to accept the attributes of the other.

You just thought [that] I asked you to look at another person, didn't you? No. I want you to see the attributes of the other gender in YOU.

You exist with the ability to meld a healthy balance of both genders within yourself to allow you to understand, and therefore co-exist, with the other gender on the planet. It makes you a far better Human Being to have a balanced mind of both polarities, even though you're the obvious biological gender of only one of them.

Let me tell you what this bal…

FORGET YOURSELF

Watch the greatest dancers, dance. The moment is free flowing and true. The true dancer utilizes the space around them to communicate a message. When we understand that message, we are in awe and lost, having forgotten we are watching a dance at all.

One could think that the dancer is the reason we feel in awe. But that is only partially true. We love the dancer for dance itself. In fact we hardly see the dancer, what we are really seeing is intention through movement. We may marvel at watching the one in the moment, and admire the skill and form, but a good dancer has forgotten themselves and we will not notice their act.

We experience the moment the dance was created for, and the meaning, and the authenticity all seen unconsciously and felt with the heart. Once you see the dancer dance, or the actor act, the moment is forgotten and the intention has disappeared and the connection to all things is gone, and all that is left is the performer in a moment of expressive poverty.

Everyday we…

Darkness and the Duality of Humanity

GenderEvolve

"The core of the duality of humanity, self-worth, features a balance of energy...the balance of 'dark and light', yet [it doesn't] mean what you think. Some have called it a balance of energy. Some have even called it old and new. But none of those labels are [actually] correct.

Instead, [it is] an energy quotient, a seesaw of added and subtracted attributes created in much the same way as a puzzle...a puzzle that creates a struggle of one kind of energy with another. For eons, this particular self worth balance in the Human Being has been biased toward the 'dark side'.

[In fact,] there is nothing on this planet more evil or more dark than what is possible to conjure up in the human mind!

There's no evil that stands by itself on the planet. All evil is contained in the consciousness of humanity. There's no dark entity or group of entities that stand around waiting for you to slip and fall so they can take you away or capture your soul. …

Healing Emotional Self-Abuse

Self-abuse can start from unrequieted love, abandonment, or rejection early in childhood. Many times when we do not receive something we really need or want, or when something dear to us is taken away we feel cheated and rejected by the universe. Our inner child screams out in longing and doesn't understand why it can't have what it needs. Frustration and conflict manifest, and feelings of unworthiness start to creep into the subconscious mind. This starts a chain of emotional reactions that inhibit the creative flow of life within us, and what we really desire in life becomes even more inacccessible and remote.

Somewhere during this succesion of events, the thought or belief that "I can never have this in my life", "I'll never be able to achieve this kind of success and relationship", or "I'm not good enough" begin to take over in the subconscious mind. We begin to feel emotionally paralyzed, our power to move beyond that thought pattern, …

Attractive Quotes

Attractive Quotes of the Day
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"Within you is the divine capacity to manifest and attract all that you want or desire."
~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

“The way you feel is your point of attraction.”
~ Abraham-Hicks

“Whenever you are thinking about Any Subject and feeling good you are attracting it unto you. Whenever you are thinking about Any Subject and feeling bad, you are literally pushing it away from you.”~ Abraham-Hicks

“If you envy successful people, you create a negative force of attraction that actually repels you from ever doing the things that you need to do to be successful. If you admire successful people, you create a positive force of attraction that draws you toward becoming more and more like the kinds of people that you want to be like.“
~ Brian Tracy

"Prosperity in the form of wealth works exactly the same as everything else. You will see it coming into your life when you are unattached to needing it."
~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

“When you focus on a need…

A Matter of Choice

A Matter Of Choice The Law Of Attraction

One of the most wonderful abilities we have is the ability to make choices. We can choose to think positive thoughts or negative thoughts. Likewise, we can make an effort to ensure all our actions contribute to positive outcomes or we can convince ourselves that negative outcomes are inevitable. Such choices can then have a profound affect on your life, for they are the seeds you sow in the universe. Your words and deeds, even the thoughts kept hidden in your mind, contribute to your experience by attracting similar words, deeds, and thoughts because of the Law of Attraction. It is a natural law, as easy to understand as "like begets like" or "what you sow, so shall you reap." It means that what you give to the universe will come back to you, giving you a huge measure of control over the direction and quality of your own life. If you are patient, you will no doubt be able to see the Law of Attraction at work in your own life.…

The Other Side of the Law

Further to my recent post, The Law of Attraction, there is one aspect that should be addressed, which is not covered in the video. According to the Law of Attraction, we have the power to shape our lives as we wish. Through focused intent, including mental imagery, conscious thought, and the accompanying emotions that go along with having it already, we can manifest our every dream. This is wonderfully empowering knowledge, which removes the mental limitations we all have for ourselves.

They tell us in the video, that the universe will rearrange itself to bring us that which we are focusing on, for better or worse. It is easy to understand that if we think negative thoughts and feel pessimistic about life, that is what we will get.

What is not so obvious is, in the process of drawing to oneself those positive dreams, other aspects of life which are not in alignment with those dreams, will fall by the wayside. It may in fact seem, as though they are literally ripped away so fast it makes…

The Law of Attraction

A life changing revelation came to me recently. It is something I’ve always "known", practiced even, yet I was not truly aware of its power. The pieces all came together for me when watching "The Secret" for the first time (available below). This is the secret which has been described by all of the great spiritual masters in history, and by many of the leaders and greatest minds of all time.

In essence, the Secret is the Universal Law of Attraction, through which we create our own reality. We attract to us whatever we think about frequently and feel strongly about, including those things we don’t want, or are most worried about. Whatever we give mental energy to, especially when coupled with strong emotions, will manifest in our lives in some form or another. We draw to ourselves whatever we are focusing on. This is obviously a two-edged sword, for we can use our powerful positive thoughts to create our most beautiful dream life, or we can allow powerful negative th…

Coming Out With Us

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We often talk about coming out. The fear of potential life altering backlash from friends, family workmates etc., but wht about those that come out with us? Recently, the boyfriend of Harisu -- China's most famout post op- TS -- was revealed to the world. Click for Harisu pics

After having kept his identitiy hidden since they met, the couple decided to reveal their relationship on national TV (in China). The reason, they said, was that they wanted people to see that the love they share is no different than any couple.

As transgender people we should all be aware and respect those that love us, because to do so publicaly means that they are coming out too.

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Transgender Star's Boyfriend Comes Out
The Chosun Ilbo, May 24, 2006

The transgender celebrity Harisu has finally shown her boyfriend to the world after jealously guarding the man’s identity on previous occasions. In a program on KMTV called "Introducing Harisu's Boyfriend," the singer’s lover was revealed to b…

The difference between being an American and LGBT

Being an American is not the same as being LGBT. There are three ways to become an American. Anyone who is born in the United States is automatically a US Citizen. For someone who is not born on US soil, as long as one of their parents is an American citizen, they are also US citizens. Finally, anyone who comes here legally, can go through the naturalization process to become an American citizen. So, one is either born an American, or can chose to become one by going through the naturalization process.

However, for LGBT people, there is no naturalization process. Contarary to what some people believe, one does not chose to be LGBT. It does not matter if one or both of your parents are straight, or gay. You either are one, or you are not. I mean, who in their right mind would chose a life/lifestyle that is ostarized by most societies, condemmed by many people, and in many cases, caused the LGBT individual to loose their family and/or career? Isn't it human nature to want to fit in…

Our Seven Unsung Heros in Vermont

I want to draw attention to the surprising fact that seven people resigned their official positions with the Vermont Human Rights Commission, in protest of Gov. James Douglas' May 17th decision to vito the new gender identity nondiscrimination bill. The bill had been already passed by Vermont's state representatives and senators after careful consideration over a four year period, yet Gov. Douglas felt unspecified concerns and used his power to crush the bill.

While grave disappointment is warranted in Gov. Douglas and those four who supported his vito, it is worthy of recognition that one upstanding Comissioner and six staff felt so strongly against his decision, they actually quit their jobs in protest. Today, the following letter was published in the Vermont Times Argus newspaper, to which I sent them a response which is appended below.

Despite the apparent backward-step in the vito of this important bill, the fact that these seven good citizens felt so strongly against the i…